In order to put an end to this and break out of the vicious circle, it is necessary first of all to stop, stop performing the same habitual actions, calm down and.. to give up, to finally admit the existence of a problem, no matter how naive it may sound.
In order to motivate you as much as possible to do a simple job, the practice described at the end of this section, below I will give some of the most common "pitfalls", such little provocateurs who most often lie in wait for us in such work on the creation of their lives. So,
"Underwater stone" No. 1. If the words "admit the existence of a problem" and similar appeals seem silly and ridiculous to you now (well, with all this, your life does not change for the better in any way), it just means that under your sarcasm there is an elementary fear of taking responsibility for your life along with the fear of change.
"Underwater stone" No. 2. If your mind throws at you a lot of reasons and excuses to do it tomorrow, next week or sometime else, then this is just a trick, a cunning trick, an attempt by the mind to leave you within the established paradigm at all costs, because any habit, any ingrained belief strives to survive by any means, like everything and everything in this world.
"Underwater stone" No. 3. If it seems to you now that you have known all this for a long time, or that all this is just another philosophical theory, but at the same time, again, your life does not change for the better, you continue to flounder helplessly in a sea of problems, then, I'm sorry, you are simply lying. You lie to yourself, and as a result, you lie to the people around you.
In short, if you really want to change your life for the better, do not succumb to all these provocations. In order for something to change, it needs to change; nothing will change if you keep doing the same thing. Therefore, exhale deeply and admit to yourself that this or that problem exists, realize it. Be honest with yourself first of all, and then, over time, you will no longer have to lie to other people.
Moreover, according to the Law of Unity, the people around you will stop lying to you. Allow yourself to be honest with yourself and admit that the problem exists. This step is your only opportunity to change your life for the better, your only chance. Do you hear, the only one! Help will not fall from the sky if you continue to deceive yourself and be deceived again and again.
Remember the words of the Holy Scripture: "Ask, and it will be given to you ..." They contain the whole essence of the step of Awareness. Drop the pride and just try, admit the problem honestly, with an open heart. By nature, such pride is just self-deception, unwillingness to face the truth, fear of calling a spade a spade in a brilliant package of excuses and pretexts. "Misfortune is preceded by pride," says the Holy Scripture.
Admit to yourself that there is a problem. It is the result of your erroneous understanding of the structure of the World, which led you to wrong actions or their absence. Neither you, nor your parents, bosses, friends, the government, nor even the weather are to blame for the current situation; but you, and only you, are fully responsible for it.
"Underwater stone" No. 4. And here is a favorite excuse for many to give up and fall into despondency, reveling in a sense of guilt for what they have done. This is just another trap. You are not to blame, but you are responsible!
Do you feel the difference? The difference between the words "guilty" and "responsible"? Feeling guilty, we get nothing but punishment, we continue to remain completely helpless in front of an unknown future, and life simply "happens" to us. Responsibility, on the contrary, gives us back the remote control of our own life.
When we really understand that we are responsible for everything that happens to us, the fear of uncertainty and change goes away, because we already know that despite the fact that we created all this ourselves, we ourselves, and only ourselves, can change it. Taking responsibility is the key to success, and this key is always in our pocket, we need to take it and use it.
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