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There is a science behind everything. Science means rules, techniques!
It is very difficult not to say in the case of a very sensitive and emotionally soft person. I have seen many people who say “yes” to their own losses. Because they can't say no. Para says yes for various reasons.
When I learned to understand that it was hurting me, I began to explain myself in various ways.
Then I learned to understand, you need hard logic to say no. If you can logically say no by saying no then you will see that the person next to you will accept it. Strict logic is needed to say no to that. Why don't you say, if not, what is the benefit, what is your loss! If you think someone will be upset after you say no, tell them the logic after saying no, so that they can understand. All the people of the world are defeated by logic. If you can give the right logic about that.
Second, the most important thing is to increase "emotional intelligence."
Emotion as a human being, a feeling of love, joy-sorrow, getting-not-getting. If you can control your emotions and make a decision, you will see that you have made the right decision. Then you will not lose by saying no.
Because, when you become emotionally attached, you cannot calculate your own good-evil-gain-loss. Only if you gradually increase your emotional intelligence.
Now the question is, what is emotional intelligence? How to increase, will?
In the twentieth century, emotional intelligence is now the greatest skill of the twentieth century. Emotional intelligence is the only way to be able to judge an event without being judgmental.
There are several books on emotional intelligence on the market. English writers. You can download the PDF if you want, you can also buy the hard copy. They are also found in Nilkhet.
Interesting post. Thank you.